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I came across this blog post topic\/tag when I was 28, thought OO I want to do that when I turn 30, and drafted the post right then with just the title so that I could visit it here and there to write in whenever\u00a0something came to mind, like a letter to myself. \u00a0And now it’s here- I turn 30 today!<\/p>\n
I’ve looked forward to my 30’s with the anticipation that I’d be a lot more grounded in who I am. \u00a0Having gone through a decade of the biggest\u00a0changes and moments of my life, I’m\u00a0excited for what feels like is going to be an even better season of life simply because I know so much better now what I want and what’s important to me. \u00a0Birthdays always put me in a reflective mood, and in an attempt to remember that I’m wiser now, here’s\u00a030 things I’ve learned in 30 years. \u00a0Some of the sentences in bold might be quotes that I’m forgetting the source of. \u00a0Just know I wish I was that eloquent but am probably borrowing words.<\/p>\n
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1 | I’ve never regretted putting people before work, but I have regretted putting work before people. 2 | Everyone feels nervous and awkward around new people. \u00a0Be the person to break the ice.\u00a0<\/strong> 3 | No one is thinking about you nearly as much as you think they are.<\/strong> 4 | Gratitude is everything.<\/strong><\/p>\n 5 | Success ultimately comes from maintaining\u00a0good habits and routines. 6 | My parents are cool.<\/strong> 7 | Hold out for what you LOVE. 8 | Be nice and expect nothing in return. 9 | Following your passion isn’t the end all be all.<\/strong> 10 | No matter how wronged I am, I will do everything I can to act right. \u00a0<\/strong> 11 | Working out is SO much more\u00a0than working out.<\/strong> 1. It’s hard and it sucks a lot sometimes, but it gets easier. \u00a0The hardest part is staying consistent, but\u00a0you will get stronger. 12 | Be curious, not judgmental. 13 | You know that saying that goes like things don’t happen to you, you have to happen to things? \u00a0It’s true.<\/strong> 14 | Everything you do is practice until it isn’t. 15 | You can travel if you prioritize it, like anything else.<\/strong> 16 | Someone else’s success doesn’t diminish yours.<\/strong> 17 | If you’re not sure what to order at a restaurant, ask the waiter for their favorites\u00a0and always go with that.<\/strong> 18 | Surround yourself with positive people. 19 | One of the best gifts you can give someone is your undivided attention.<\/strong> 20 | Record your life.<\/strong> 21 | Don’t hold grudges.<\/strong> 22 | Absolutely nothing is worth the price of your health or peace of mind. 23 | Please eat your vegetables.<\/strong> 24 | Everything gets\u00a0better once you stop trying to change yourself.<\/strong> 25 | Invest in good bedsheets.<\/strong> 26 | Never hold back a sincere compliment. 27 | Friendships\u00a0change and that’s ok. 28 | Open up.<\/strong> 29 | Speak up.<\/strong> 30 | If you have the opportunity to move somewhere new, do it.<\/strong> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I came across this blog post topic\/tag when I was 28, thought OO I want to do that when I turn 30, and drafted the post right then with just the title so that I could visit it here and there to write in whenever\u00a0something came to mind, like a letter to myself. \u00a0And now … Continue reading “30 Things I’ve Learned By 30”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":16836,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"wprm-recipe-roundup-name":"","wprm-recipe-roundup-description":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[169,448],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13267","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life","category-tips"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13267","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13267"}],"version-history":[{"count":35,"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13267\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":20552,"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13267\/revisions\/20552"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16836"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13267"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13267"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.homeyohmy.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13267"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\n<\/strong>You are nothing without your people. \u00a0Put them first and trust everything else will work out.<\/p>\n
\nI know, I hate it, I start sweating thinking about it, but everyone will appreciate it and you will get better the more you try.<\/p>\n
\nI mean that as in don’t let what you think other people think about you decide what you do. \u00a0In a lot of cases, everyone is so caught up in thinking about how others think of them that no one is actually thinking about each other- how you dress, what you buy, what kind of car you drive, how clean your room is, don’t do it for other people. \u00a0The good ones don’t care about that stuff and stick by you no matter what.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>It’s the daily somethings and nothings that get you where you want to go, everything from\u00a0eating right, sticking to a schedule,\u00a0exercising, being punctual, picking up after yourself, getting enough sleep, good manners, keeping promises, everything that makes you happy, productive, and cool to be around.<\/p>\n
\nI really should have known this all along, but in recent years I’m understanding more the advice they gave and the decisions they made, and feeling very grateful for it all.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Things that don’t count: you like it a lot, you think it’s pretty good, it’s really cool right now, or everyone else says it’s dope. \u00a0No, you must LOVE it so much it makes you fly, that there is zero doubt in your mind it’s soulmate status. \u00a0This applies\u00a0to everything, but I really\u00a0learned it from the past few years of decorating our home, ha!<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>This is one of the best recipes for happiness.\u00a0 Give generously.<\/p>\n
\nIt’s amazing if you can make your passion your job, but just because your job isn’t your passion doesn’t mean you’re not reaching your full potential, and just because your passion is your job doesn’t mean you’re impervious to bad days and self-doubt. \u00a0Most things boil down to our circumstances and priorities, which are so personal and different for everyone. \u00a0Don’t let the idea of\u00a0“following your passion” doubt a life you are already happy with, but also make room to explore that side of you. \u00a0And don’t let anyone convince you you’re not living your life if it isn’t dedicated to your passion, because it can be more complex than that.<\/p>\n
\nEven when I play out in my head punching someone in the face who did something mean\u00a0to me, I end up happier knowing that I could let it go and move on. \u00a0You can’t take back hurtful words or actions, so don’t recklessly throw them at people.<\/p>\n
\n4 life lessons that exercising\u00a0has taught me:<\/p>\n
\n2. When past goals or benchmarks are no longer challenging you, set new ones.
\n3. You are more capable than you think.
\n4. If you don’t use it, you lose it.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Pointing fingers and criticizing a situation you don’t know anything about doesn’t help anyone. \u00a0Ask questions and prioritize trying to understand before anything else.<\/p>\n
\nI spent years of my early 20’s pouting about my life, dissatisfied with how things were going but I did nothing about it, so guess what? \u00a0Nothing happened. \u00a0I had this fantasy\u00a0that someone or something would come and save me, that I’d get lucky and get catapulted on an exciting path, but what took me years to learn is that you have to go and do\u00a0it yourself. \u00a0It takes hard work, time, and some really, really shitty days, but if you believe in what you’re chasing and stick with it, you will get somewhere or\u00a0at the very least, learn a lot about yourself.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Always always always always always do your best, even if you don’t enjoy it.<\/p>\n
\nThe details are different for everyone because obviously everyone’s situations and obstacles are different. \u00a0For us this has meant we plan at least one big yearly trip about 6-8 months\u00a0in advance. \u00a0In that time we research, save, and get our affairs in order in preparation for our absence during that time. \u00a0I wish we had started doing this sooner, because before we’d come up with excuses that we didn’t have the time or money but now I know\u00a0that wasn’t true at all. \u00a0Back when I worked a corporate job I used to hoard my vacation time to cash out at the end of the year and never took time off- WHAT, WHY??? \u00a0Put in the effort to figure out what works for you because you NEED to give yourself time off, even if it’s a staycation (love those).<\/p>\n
\nWe need to stick together, lift each other up, and be happy for other people’s happiness. \u00a0Jealousy is\u00a0an unhealthy and ugly monster that is never beneficial and none of us need it.<\/p>\n
\nThis has never failed me, but I like being adventurous with food. \u00a0Be adventurous with food!<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>I’m hard enough on myself and don’t have any room\u00a0for someone else to be hard on me in a negative way. \u00a0You don’t have to be friends with everyone, especially people who have a way of bringing you down. \u00a0Do not give them your time, and stay close to those who make you feel happy and supported.<\/p>\n
\nIt’s a fail-proof way to make them feel loved and important. \u00a0Always strive to prioritize this.<\/p>\n
\nPhotos, videos, journals, you don’t have to record everything to the point where you’re missing the moment,\u00a0but have something you can look back on later and smile about. \u00a0I’m thinking years from now it’ll be fun to look back on this list or really anything from this blog.<\/p>\n
\nYou don’t have to let that asshole back into your life, but you can forgive them and be cool. \u00a0Grudges have a way of breeding other rotten feelings that are better to let go of. \u00a0This isn’t the same as getting over it. \u00a0Some things we may never get over, but the point is to not let it eat you.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Never ever sacrifice these things for anything. \u00a0You can’t live\u00a0without either of them.<\/p>\n
\nI wish this one was more fun but I feel passionately about it. \u00a0I’ve reached a point where I love and crave them, but it wasn’t always this way. \u00a0There’s a moment of passage into adulthood when you accept that there are things you don’t want to do but you have to because the benefits far outweigh whatever your individual feelings about them are. \u00a0Veggies are one of them (going to the dentist is another). \u00a0They’re so so so good for you pleeeeaase don’t skip them!!<\/p>\n
\nIsn’t it crazy to think that much of your younger life is about wishing you looked like or were someone else? \u00a0Granted a lot of this is driven by trends, but I truly felt\u00a0my own once I\u00a0decided\u00a0I’m not going to hide what I look like or\u00a0who I am.<\/p>\n
\nYou spend the most amount of time in closest proximity with your bedsheets, more than any other thing you own, for an activity that can single-handedly improve the quality of your life (sleep, we knew that, right?) \u00a0They need to be comfortable, beautiful, and high quality. \u00a0This is a necessary treat to yourself. \u00a0We could also say this about mattresses, add that too.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>It makes both sides of the interaction\u00a0happy and is always worth it.
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\n<\/strong>College especially defined\u00a0friends as\u00a0the people you talk\u00a0and hang out with constantly\u00a0all the time, but things change,\u00a0geography gets in the way, and life makes it harder to continue making that\u00a0kind of time for each other. \u00a0 It used to bum me out, but I needed to look at it differently. \u00a0A\u00a0lot of friendships have been fleeting, but I’ve also had the same handful of people I can reach out to any time and it will feel like nothing has changed between us no matter how long it has been since our last talk. \u00a0That’s nothing to be sad about.<\/p>\n
\nYou’re not burdening others with your story. \u00a0I’ve found they usually want to hear it and even more, to be there for you.<\/p>\n
\nI have a small story that made me see the bigger picture on this. \u00a0I recently got a manicure by a woman whose fingers\u00a0had dried blood on them that\u00a0seemed like it was from cuts or ripped skin around her cuticles. \u00a0And I said nothing. \u00a0She massaged and rubbed my hands as I sat there dying inside, dying again when I looked back at her fingers later and there appeared to be less blood on them because she had\u00a0probably rubbed it all over my hands. \u00a0I have a fear of speaking up, confrontation, and upsetting other people, to the point where I’d rather take on harm to myself. \u00a0This ends now. \u00a0That manicure wasn’t cheap, I take it as a very serious treat for myself, and it was well within my right to ask for someone without bloody fingers. \u00a0Like other things, we need to ask for what we want<\/em> and express\u00a0our expectations. \u00a0It isn’t mean, it’s communication. \u00a0It can also mean standing up for others who need our help, like maybe help a sister out if you see someone with bloody fingers about to give her a manicure!<\/p>\n
\nFirst, I really wish I studied abroad in college. \u00a0Second, moving to LA was the best thing that could have happened. \u00a0It’s not just about a new location, but the growth you can only find from\u00a0being alone, finding footing on foreign\u00a0ground, and generally experiencing situations that are new and scary. \u00a0All these things make you better.<\/p>\n